If you have not heard of him, read him or seen any of his video, I implore you to get to know him.  Unfortunately, he passed in 1973 but fortunately, his words still resonate.

Find him on youtube: Alan Watts

The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.
Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth.
I have realized that the past and future are real illusions, that they exist in the present, which is what there is and all there is.